Originally Posted by
PandorasFate 
As a recovering alcoholic, did you find yourself latching on to the people who helped you, becoming kinder and thankful, or did you have a sense that you could manipulate them if you felt weak?
before I read the rest of your sentence, I was going to reply to this with, no, not latching on, but using, manipulating, ... I didn't have a sense that I could use or manipulate, I KNEW I could.. and it was not because I felt weak, it's because I knew they were.
you finished the thought yourself.
I wasn't able to give a rats ass about anyone but my liquor when I was active in addiction. I can't even say I cared about myself, clearly I didn't.
He'll relapse with or without you, if that's what he chooses to do.
If he's actively as consumed by alcohol as you write, he can't care about much, not you, not anyone.. just the liquor. And that is how it will be until HE decides to recover.