Hi TB,
Sounds like it might be time to have a long talk with this person, at least to try to express your side of the situation. It's worth a try and we both know a drink is not the answer.
I do have a cattle prod though, that may come in handy on those days she wants to lay around and let you do the work, lol. Couple of stings on the rump, and she'll be singing a new tune, lol.
Hang in there, starting over at day one is no fun, we know that!!
One day at a time,
Dallas