You know what you are comfortable with.....and I think you will come clean when you are good and ready and not a minute before. Try not to beat yourself up and take some steps forward to your new life. I need to do the same very soon, I am tired of the way things are right now......the BF comes home this morning and I am ducking a beer under the desk so he won't see.....can you say loser? LOL.....but I will get there....and the hiding will be gone and I will be happier. So will you my friend.