You are asking some good questions and i believe that if you follow up on each of them, you will find a sponsor who can help you make progress. i one of two phone numbers someone told me would be a good sponsor for me and asked if he would. Knew nothing about him and had not met him in a meeting. Just took action with a suggestion from someone who was helping me stay clean & sober who cared enough about me to help me make a decision in regards to getting a sponsor.