Welcome to our family, Jin. It's so great to have you here.
Grieving over my past losses kept me from getting sober in the first place. Every time I'd try to drink less & the fog would lift, I'd see the destruction I'd caused & run right back to my "shelter". Numbing myself cost me years of my life. When I finally was able to quit, I still spent about a year wasting time on regrets. That's where SR came in. The more I read the stories here, I knew I was not alone anymore. I wanted to move forward & enjoy the rest of my life, the way most people here had learned to do.
We've already been devastated by a terrible disease & had many things taken from us. To waste the time we have left dwelling on the past makes our existence pointless. We can't allow that to happen - let's remember the bad stuff only to serve as a reminder that we're never going back down into hell again. Then let's walk forward toward the light of a new day. You can do this!