It does clear it up Tyler and thanks. I hope you understand that my viewpoint on this issue is from an adult that remembers what her parents put her through "after" they divorced. They never spoke to each other again and I was their, how should I say, messenger. I actually still am. I was and am put directly in the middle and the line of fire. Remember "Don't shoot the messenger?" I always wanted to please them and would say whatever I thought they wanted to hear at the expense of what I wanted. This is why I implore you to only communicate with your ex and not directly to your son about things. Wanted you to know where I am coming from when I offer my advice on this is all.