Welcome to SR Susan! You've come to a place for good info and support. I would suggest you take a look at our Friends and Families forum for more support from people who have been in your situation.
I would also suggest you look for AlAnon in your area. You can find face to face support from people who understand what you're going thru. Check out this website to look for meetings.
Find a meeting in Ontario Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
I'm glad you joined our family.:ghug3