partydiva and dojoro: I am only on day 14. Thoought I would comment on your thinking that your husbands are clueless. I doubt it. Even though we may not realize it, we act differently when we have had a few drinks. I used to think the same about my husband. Turns out he was just tolerating the tipsy me and ignoring it. It wasn't until I started passing out occasionally that he confronted me. Our spouses are more intelligent than we usually give them credit for, especially if we have been married for several years. Anyway, that's my 2 cents.