dojoro,
I was EXACTLY the same in my drinking. Most of my drinking happened in the kitchen while making, serving and cleaning up dinner. When I first got sober, I had to change that habit for a bit. It was probably 60 days before I could cook comfortable in the kitchen. So, I did a lot of crock pot cooking, quick meals and eating out those first 60 days. I joined the gym and took my daughter there several nights a week. And I spent a lot of time in meetings.
I have been sober a year and a half now and I LOVE my life! Every day i do not drink is a success!
Best of luck to you. You can do this!