Jo
The more you describe your medical history, the more it becomes obvious that you should not drink.... look at the problems alcohol has caused already.
When you get the Big Book, read about the types of drinkers and pay particular attention to the distinction given between "Hard Drinker" and "Alcoholic"....
The hard drinker can stop drinking if there is sufficient reason to... spouse, job....HEALTH.... The alcoholic cannot. I paraphrased here, but you get the idea.... However, the Big Book is all about HOPE... please remember that it was written in the 1930's, so apply some of the cultural environment of that time to what you read, ie, gender roles, and don't let it take you off the message.
Tell only those you have to... talking with your husband was good, he should know what you are trying to do.... recover! You can tell others as you feel you need to, however.... There is other, much more important, work to do....
Glad you are OK, hope the kids are.... I travel the Taconic a lot, what a tragedy.
Mark