J&M -
My opinion only but I think that with my AH, he thinks that he loves me but he really needs me more than loves me. He needs me to stay with him so that he can keep on believing that the way he chooses to live his life is fine and dandy.
I have no doubt that if I left him, he would quickly find someone else to help him to keep on believing that. Drinking is the number one thing for him. Doing whatever it takes to keep making drinking OK is his first and only goal. To quote Tina - What's love got to with it?
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