Especially since he quit long before he ever met me. I feel like it was his decision, yet it doesn't have to be mine. I wasn't with him when he drank. It seems to me that it is a control issue, if *I* can't, *YOU* can't. He never went through counseling and I don't believe he quit because he wanted to ....I think he *HAD* to. He has 4 dwi's and still has a warrant for his arrest from 7 years ago. I have a hard time with someone trying to make me do something, even more so when he tells me our relationship will not be permanent. It seems I am making the concessions here.