Thanks, guys. Yep, I am a definite hard head too, lol! I give it up, then take it back, then give it up, etc, etc!!
I think what frustrates me the most is that I "take charge" with her. I am constantly telling her to make sure she is looking at all angles on everything, and I feel like I need to otherwise she'll get taken advantage of (she is pretty passive usually). But then I end up making myself responsible for her decisions, and so my cycle of codependency continues.
As time goes on in my recovery, I can see more clearly what I can help with, what I can't.
I can't wait to start my step 4. I have a class I need to get completed by the end of the month (must write 2 more papers and study/write my final, YIKES), and then I can give it a start.
-SFG29