I have used the elephant saying so many times. Because that is exactly what happens. I found it quitr therapeutic to write and send - not enjoyable as is was upsetting but I do feel a little cleansed.
I told my dad there was no contact but not her directly. I felt the need in my head to wrap it up, if that makes sense. I have said my bit and there are no loose ends in my mind.
She may choose never to speak to me again, she may choose to write a nasty letter back but I am relieved because I pointed right at that elephant and acknowledged it.
I have just come home from my 2nd ala-non meeting and I feel I will sleep well tonight.