@ misty
...this probably sounds biased but it's what I've witnessed in life. When a long-term relationship breaks up, women tend to take some time getting over it. Then they are free to find and be happy in another relationship. For men it seems like they need to find the new relationship first and *that* is what helps get them over the heartbreak.
I think there is some truth to that, but...
I think BOTH men and women engage in this form of behavior - finding new relationships to expedite the pain and loss of the previous one. IMO, some people just don't allow themselves the time to grieve adequately.