That sounds like detaching with love, to me, and doing what you need to do to take care of yourself. All this is healthy behaviour.
And you're right, it may not be received well, but you don't own their reactions, they do just as they own their problem.
I know that, for me, I could not live in the problem (my son's addiction) and the solution (my recovery) at the same time. So I chose to live in the solution to make my life worth living. I gave the care of my son over to God, asking Him in prayer each day to do what I could not do, and then I could live my life knowing that my son was in good hands.
It's hard to let go, but it's better than getting dragged down with them.
Hugs