coming_clean congrats on 4 days.
It's all about dealing with feelings sober.
Exactly what I have found as well, one thing I was kind of surprised about in AA's steps was that only one of the 12 steps mentions alcohol, the first one! The remainder all involve finding a new solution for life that allow us to live life aka deal with feelings and not even think of drugs or alcohol as any part of a solution for dealing with life and feelings.
I always thought that as soon as I quit smoking weed everything in my life will be wonderfull, but that's not the way how this works.
I thought the same thing about my alcoholism, I kept thinking that all I needed to do was stop drinking and life would be AWESOME!!!!! Well it took me a lot of years to finally see that my drinking was but a symptom of my disease, all of my problems lay in my head and my thought processes and where I looked for guidance in living. Once again those 12 steps helped me to find a Power greater then I that would help me to solve my problems.