Oh, how I needed this today.
My 19-yr-old ASon has been in a sober house since Aug 20 and has yet to find a job -- probably because I pay his rent, car insurance and give him money for food and gas. this was my way of supporting his recovery and he is making do with that quite nicely obviously. He has learned how to shop wisely for groceries, shop at the resale for clothes, and found a free clinic when he was sick with a bad cold. He makes his daily meetings and does a little bit of community service (but not enough). So he is taking tiny baby steps, but it's time for me to cut back on his 'allowance' and I'm going to have a hard time doing that.
Somebody give me a mantra that works! LOL