Hey Max
Nice to see ya! Congrats on being able to see something is not right. To answer your question from my experience:
In order to fit in without drinking etc. I had to quit, find my personality 'baseline' (ME) and real friends seem to come around. Time frame.. Well it does take time but all good things do take time.
Not sure if you have ever played baseball but Sunday I was telling the new 12 year old first basemen to catch the ball first then deal with the runner coming to first base.
Call the ball first (Just don't drink no matter what), then work on the runner heading to first. He will not get the runner out without the ball (Enjoying life).