Hang in there SCN. I am praying you will find the support you need right now,and you do need it. Have you ever tried an Al Anon meeting? I have just started going and it has helped me realize how I need to change my thinking and my responses to my alcoholic family members. It really helps if you find a good group and if one doesn't seem a good fit, try another one. It's not just for alcohol but substance abuse too. You can even take your daughter. In my group, a mom takes her two teenage daughters so they can learn to cope better. Never give up and take care of yourself and your daughter. You are no good to anyone if you are run down, cranky, enabling him, in denial etc... You need to heal and get the tools you need to show him love. In so doing you will minister better to your husband.