To all of you who answered, I cannot tell you enough how much each and every one of you has helped me. All these years, I kept hoping, if I help him just one more time, this will be the time that he will stay clean. I know now that I can't do it for him. I guess I knew it all along, but that "Motherly- I can fix this" thing kept me from seeing what I really had to do. You are all such a blessing, and I thank you. It helps to know I am not alone. God Bless all of you