Hello faithfully, I hope you come back and come back often
Even in this one thread I can 'see' that some things may be becoming more clear to you. You asked if anyone can relate, well maybe not with everything like Sailorjohn said, but I definitely relate to having felt responsible for someone else. There was a time where I had to make a choice of whether or not to keep enabling my husband to continue his downward spiral of addiction to pain meds. After years of making excuses for him and basically taking care of everything, I had to stop. Just stop. For me. For him.
So as you do the next right thing....which is, I hope, doing what you need to do for you.....I want to leave you with this thought:
sometimes love means saying no and/or walking away. It might hurt, it might not feel right, but
sometimes giving someone the dignity to take care of themselves (in whatever way that may be) and find their own way is the most loving thing you can do for them.
PS That love can also mean loving yourself.