With all due respect, Faithfully, that is not your problem. It's his problem, and he's never going to do anything to help himself so long as you are there doing it for him. He has to hit his bottom, and you being there taking care of him keeps him from doing that. You need to take care of you and let him figure out how to take care of himself; and if he doesn't do that, it's NOT your fault. I'm willing to bet though, that if you left and refused to help him in any way, he would reach the point where he would beg for the ambulance to come get him and take him to the hospital. Then, you would need to LEAVE him there and let them do their jobs. I know it's not easy, but with you sitting there with a front row seat to all the drama, you're just allowing yourself to be drawn into it. You need to get out and stay out.