Be patient, in most cases as in my own, the things I did/said that caused me the fear and shame occurred over a long period of time and it takes a long time to let go and forgive yourself. I barely left my home for the first year of sobriety-I went to work and I went home, I was practically afraid of my own shadow and filled with immense shame;gradually I began to forgive myself and make amends where I could it takes time, determination, and faith even if that faith is only in yourself.