thank you for your response. everyone gets mad and sad, that is expected, but when he is in a bad mood we have to walk on eggshells around him. , when he is in a good mood you can say anything. on one of his good days, i told him that and he said he didn't know if the moodiness would ever change. now i can't stop thinking about that comment. that's why i'm asking. it so easily seems like your on your own in these situations, and i'm very introverted to begin with, so to ask anyone about these things is very hard for me (but easier on the computer, more anonymous i guess) thank you and yes, I know i'm rambling...