motherinlaw
Hi all, I haven't been posting much because things have been going well. My AH has been sober and getting better for 9 months. I have been going to al-anon, working the steps and feeling more connected to a higher power.
Last week my mother in law came to stay for a week. I lost my serenity, sanity and recovery. She is not an alcoholic but an unrecovered co-dependent. She has grown up with alcoholism, married an alcoholic, raised 2 alcoholic sons. She has a god complex where she thinks she is the only one on this planet who can be responsible. She comes over and takes over. The things that come out of her mouth are always negative. I don't want to go into details but the things she has done when it comes to the children have crossed boundaries.
If it was only my choice, I would go no contact with her. My husband doesn't see her as that bad and wants the children to have a relationship with her. I can't control anyone else except me, so I made myself scarce for the week. Honestly the way I feel now, I think next visit I will organise a week long retreat for myself. My husband is offended but I really don't care. I can see that I am being immature for expecting her to behave like a grandmother (rather than a mother figure) when it is not in her nature but I cannot handle these visits.
I am shocked at how angry I am now. I feel like I could easily push her into a wall. Right now I am not seeing her as one of God's children worthy of respect.