Originally Posted by
transformyself 
to this PLEASE and tell me why not because i'm seeing red and sooo mad that he's saying this crap to me.
He's living in our FORECLOSED house. He drank the money away. I wanted for us to commit to each other for a year and get through this with the kids, found this house for us to rent, secured the truck and people to help us move and then caught him texting his affair partner from last year.
even then I wanted him to move here with us but THANK GOD he decided he couldn't live with me and we are now seperated.
He agreed to pay me a certian amount of money every paycheck, now he's saying he can't. I Know I need to A) make more money, which I will do and B) get some support papers in place so I don't have to deal iwth this crazy crap and his accuations. He sent this to me today after raging at me yesterday about money. I want to email him back horrible things. Please remind me of why that will only make things worse.
I'm still confused as to why he thinks YOU should make more money. He isn't a stand-up kind of guy and might not be even if he weren't drinking. I have kidded myself a bit into thinking that if Robert were totally sober, things would have been so totally different between us. They would have been on many levels, but we have to remember that there are elements of someone's personality that are not substance induced. Sometimes the guy is simply self-centered and I've been around men who had no alcohol/drug issues but were very self-absorbed and self-centered anyway. I believe we deserve better than that. I hope we all find the peace & contentment that we all seek.