Originally Posted by
ventuhome 
Hey guys thanks for the input. Yeah about 1 month ago, she was still in a "lets blame others" mode. But she has stopped doing that and has been doing all her therapy and NA. She talked to me earlier in the week about a business deal that she didnt think was entierly ethical. She was using good logic and tinking about others. She is taking responsibility for her actions. THe next court date is not until late November, 2 months from now. 2 more months of clean time are possible by then. It is an injustice when the judge says you have to complete X, Y, and Z by November to get the kid back, and they do X, Y, and Z, then the social worker says "Doesnt matter! you're an addict!!"
My SIL is really depressed now, but still going to her therapy and NA, and she had her drug test today as well. I mean why cant the kid come back in November, on the condition she continues to do NA and test clean?
Unfortunately, the order is until November. Unless, she has a darn good lawyer, the SW will not and can't push the date up. She has lots of time to prove herself to the judge. Clean urine screens, continued treatment, job security, stable and safe housing, etc. I'm not sure what the condition of the home and environment was when the children were removed, but I'm sure it wasn't safe.
The SW may have been ignorant in her statement, however, is she lying? Your SIL is an addict. She has to be able to recognize that and not care what others think about her. She has to buckle down and face the music now. Her children are in the system. When the system gets involved, then this isn't the time to be coddled by some SW. They do their job in protecting the children... your SIL does her job in getting them back and keeping it that way.
Sorry your family is going through this. This is tough.
I use to work on the other end in removing children from the home. It wasn't rewarding at all and one of the toughest jobs out there. I will never go back.