Welcome back, Zak,
It's fairly common for addicts to use emotional blackmail to hook enablers.
This is why we say addicts don't have relationships, they take hostages.
The truth of emotional blackmail is that recovering addicts are the best folks to help those who want to recover, and mental health professionals are the best folks to help those with mental health issues. The addict would have you believe otherwise - that it's all on us.
Don't fall for it. None of it is actually on us. The best job we can do is point them to the folks who are the experts, and then get ourselves clear of the mess, and stop listening to the quacking (manipulative words) of the addict.
Sending encouragement,
CLMI