Was everything a lie? Can I trust what he represtented?
I don't know. Probably he meant what he said when he said it (you know guys). But he's sick. He's an addict. Addicts don't love themselves. And you have to love yourself first before you can truly love someone else.
(((hugs))) questions like that can make you crazy.
And AA does not make the recommendation that you end your marriage. It only makes the recommendation that you don't enter relationships in your first year of recovery. Addicts have this crazy tendency to transfer their addictions to anything. And new relationships can be so distracting and all consuming sometimes. It takes the focus off recovery. And without recovery, there can be nothing.