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Old 09-11-2009, 06:29 PM
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Zencat
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Good topic Bam. I hope you don't mind if I add one more.


10. Making should statements - Concentrating on what you think "should" or ought to be rather than the actual situation you are faced with, or having rigid rules which you think should always apply no matter what the circumstances are. Albert Ellis termed this "Musturbation". (See wishful thinking.)

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Here is one that I catch myself using from time to time. Like when I say I should have done this or that. When I do use the 'should'. I correct myself and say somethings along the lines of: I had an opportunity to do this or that and chose not to do it. It really makes me look at my decisions at the time. I get to take full ownership of what I did in the past rather than making it seem like some sort of vague retrospective thing.
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