Thanx for all the comments... For those who may think that this was about self centeredness... it was and it wasn't....
If I make amends to myself... restored, whole... not giving myself hugs... only then can I become the best husband, father, friend, coworker, whatever... I can be...
Making myself right. But this only comes as I work through the steps. Most importantly 6-9. It's hard work.
Mark