Let me move this further...
When we make amends in our 9th step, our goal is to make things right with someone. If possible, as they were before. We don't ask for forgiveness, if it is given... so much the better. But, we want to set things right.
Forgiving ourselves is vital of course. But does this restore us? It is through the steps and the program that we regain our dignity, credibility and self worth. It is only through action, I think, that we can square the account with ourself.
That action, as defined in the program of AA, accomplishes this. All we have to do is work that simple program
I still have much work to do, but is reassuring to know what that work is, even though it is difficult at times.