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Old 08-31-2009, 03:47 AM
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Jadmack25
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Quote by mentallyexh ((He is verbally abusive often, and is in my opinion mean to me, I don't like my children see that, and then of course there is the drinking, so what IS my problem. I suppose guilt from my beliefs in what marriage is and should be.))

No-one likes to feel like a loser, specially in relationships. I know I felt terrible.
Marriage is a commitment and CONTRACT, not just a few fuzzy words spoken.

You meant your vows, but unless your AH actually promised "to lie, abuse, insult, and treat you with disrespect ", I assume he made the same vows that you did.

You have honoured your side of that marriage contract, which he has constantly broken.

The only way to stop your kids seeing and hearing abuse and bad behavior is by stopping it happening at all. Either he does a real about turn in his behavior, or you separate.

He doesn't seem like he is going to change in any way for the better, not for a long time anyway, so it will be up to you to take action to protect the children from his behavior.

God bless
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