Originally Posted by
allport 
That didn't come across as flippant it came across as mean
sorry.
It's kind of a reaction to something I heard earlier, and I should know better than to put my own crap on here.
I do however think you really need to look at how you are dealing with the ex.
I am not one of those people who thinks you should not have any dealings with those who were around when we were using.
But unacceptable behaviour is not something you should accept from anyone just to keep them in your life.
If you feel you need him in your life that is your choice but are you willing to put up with the baggage?
No worries, allport. My ex is staying with me just until an apartment becomes available for him. He's not just completely taking advantage of me, though I think he asked too much on this one. I called him a couple times and did the "oh of course they're welcome but..." number and he got the idea. She's not spending the night. I guess that was kinda crappy of me but oh well. It was kinda crappy of him to ask in the first place.
He and I used to be best friends before we dated, before the drugs, and I feel like this isn't over yet. It's not just not being over him, there's more to it than that. I've had friendships/relationships run their course before and recognize when they're over. This is not over yet. I don't really believe in fate but we've both tried to end this a couple times and circumstances always push us back into each other's lives. And even with her silly drama my life is better and more peaceful when he and I are friends. It's not a dating thing, it's just when he's around in some capacity-- a friend, whatever-- I'm happier and my life is better. So yeah, the drama stresses me out but so far it's worth it. That's so twisted.