Chillgal,
I recently attended my first meeting and really didn't feel very comfortable either. I think the Al-Anon suggestion is to attend 6 meetings before making a decision if it is right for you, so I'm going to keep trying. I know I need some help and I keep reminding myself that if my AH can make it to meetings every day in his recovery, then I owe it to myself to work on my own sanity...even if it is not very easy.
Hang in there...