Originally Posted by
daisylady 
I hate it when he makes me feel like I am the reason he uses
How exactly does he do this?
He can attempt to manipulate you to feel this way but you are way to sharp to fall for this crapola.
As for those boundaries.....well they sound more like you are trying to control him than boundaries for
yourself. You expect him to tow the line and he's not doing it. Instead, he is doing what addicts do.
Can you consider reframing it.....to "I will not live with someone in active addiction", assuming this is your intent. No sense making boundaries unless
you intend to follow through with the conseqequences. Only
you can decide where to draw
your own line.
Notice the emphasis on you, not him, not addiction. This is all about you and that baby.