Sending hugs because you sound like you need some.
Are there any meetings near you? Meetings always had a calming affect on me and helped me stay grounded.
Sober or using, we just can't change anyone else but we can decide what we are willing to accept or not accept in our lives.
Your health matters more than anything, so maybe find some way to bring peace to yourself and detach from all the chaos. Chaos never does us any good.
Hugs