Let it out. It's got to go somewhere.
He seems to have this recovery thing going his way. What's going on with your recovery? His actions are still leaving you feeling disrespected and on the spot while he is doing what he wants to do with whoever he wants to do it.
Let's focus this energy on you, Mom. I'm here listening. Do you have a plan in mind when he makes tracks out of the house?? He says you need to work together. Sounds like he wants you working for the good of the team, but he's not.
Maybe it's time to detach and let him take up some more of the team effort at home. I've read it's a common problem for addicts in recovery to be just as self possessed as they were when they were using in part to protect their recovery but also when they aren't ready to branch out beyond their safety zone of other recovering addicts etc.
Keep posting!
Alice