(Wanted to keep this separate from the other post response ,:-} .)
The taking off the marriage band thing, that would have pissed me off , considering the situation.
It would speak volumes to me!!!!!
Such an action would have set me free , right after i was done being pissed off.
( but this comes from a person who is depleted of romantic love for here stbxah at present)
The word 'jerk' comes to mind over alcoholic in this, however, it might have been a statement in him setting you free because he "knows" what he is doing and thinks he can't stop. We know he really knows he ain't free. I had one of these experiences with my stbxah and didn't pick up on it, until later.( this may not be a patterned experience, just a projection in thought, so please just ignore me if this seems weird, especially if i am just sharing to much thought:-)
Sorry for what you are going through. You don't deserve this Mentallyexh. This is not what a partnership of a lover's marriage is suppose to be for you, for us, for anyone.
love tammy