Everyone here is so right. We all have feet. We can all choose to walk if things are bad, instead of constantly pointing at the other. HE HE HE made me do this. I brought up Melody Beattie because she talks about being reactionary. Being reactionary means we define ourselves in terms of another, and are always REACTING to what they do, rather than taking our own ACTION and just being who we are.
If you find that you simply CAN'T stop being reactionary in the situation you're in, then do you really want to stay there?