Thanks for all your replies and YES naive...a pitcher would probablly do me in...forget the shots!! Anyway, I guess, now that I have slept and have clearer picture....I'm left with this. Do I want my children do thing this is acceptable? Alcohol makes him very aggressive....that scares me....he is verbally VERY mean when he drinks. Of course when I was upset last night he said all kinds of horrible things about me, and when that happened I questioned...really? Again? We're going to do this again? What about how you understood your behavior? What about you being sorry for all that happened? When we talked I ONLY talked about alcohol being the problem and he attacked everyother part of me.....I KNOW I can't walk on egg shells forever, and hold my breath that maybe he won't get angry this time.