hello mentally exhausted-
i agree, when we surrender to our hp, the unexpected begins to happen...
however, don't underestimate your role in this. it is not uncommon that once the codependent starts their own recovery, the alcoholic begins to panic that they might loose their enabler.
this forum is full of stories about this. while it is great if your husband's realization leads to some ACTION, don't be tricked once again by the words you want so desperately to hear.
focus on your own recovery. he's a grown man. if he wants to go to the therapist and deal with his drinking and anger, he can. you just keep doing what is necessary for you to gain perspective and healing.