Originally Posted by
mentallyexh 
Any thoughts would be helpful and appreciated. Going to go to Alanon next week for the first time - this week I have an obligation. I am nervous about going, but am hanging by a thread!
First of all I want to encourage your decision to get to Alanon.
My therapist suggested I go and because my life was such a mess I tried it. Heck, I would have stood on my head for 10 minutes a day while whistling dixie if I thought it would have helped at that point.
Is is a miracle "cure", no. Do I come away from every meeting with a little something I can use for myself, yes. Sometimes that kernel of wisdom is as small as knowing that I don't want to end up like the person seated next me.
I spent the first bunch of meetings not really getting it. Try different meetings if the first one doesn't seem to fit.
Hang in there.