Startingover, it is always easier to look outward then look inward. I do it all the time. I say, my goodness why don't he/she leave that person. Why do they do that? why this, and then when it is in my own life I can't see ANYTHING that is necessary to move on.
I guess we wear then rose colored glasses, and although they get knocked off time and time again, we just adjust them until they lay shattered on the ground and we didn't see it coming. Sad. We all tend to have big hearts (from what I see) and we are all or nothing types of people.
I see him trying to pull me back into the mess, but I can't let that happen. My prayers are for his sobriety, and unless he can give me that, there is nothing I want from him.... and MAYBE even that wont change my direction at this point.