Thank you, Ago, this is exactly what I need to read today.
I'm doing a personal/relationship inventory on paper and today's job was to write a letter, at the end saying "I forgive you for..." to my X.
It is much easier to forgive when one sees the humanity, as you put it, of the other.
I want to let go of the pain, I want to forgive, I want to recover my loving side and stop feeling so much SHAME.
Thank you for letting us see you.