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Old 06-21-2009, 07:49 PM
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isurvived
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It is all so confusing. I call it the "alcoholic merry-go-round" — as one just can't seem to focus on the world spinning around it. Nor is it easy to know "should I jump now, or wait?"

Jump I did. And it took a while for the world to stop spinning and get my balance back, but it did.

I guess the big question you should be asking is: Is this what you want for your children? Now, I know first hand just how much "minimizing" we can do in our hearts. I know just how much I did, and how desperately I tried to make it all ok, fix everything, and have a normal family. Nothing I did could stop the insanity.

So... what we need to do is concentrate on ourself, and those little ones who look to us for direction and protection. Some people can accomplish this even if they stay in the relationship, go about their lives as best as they can. Some can't.

Alanon will help you find your way.
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