Welcome John!
What are you supposed to be doing? Taking care of yourself, so you can take care of that wonderful child
My experience with rehab wasn't that great, I have to admit, that said - I think they serve their purpose which is to get the alcoholic/addict clean for a while and provide them with the tools they need to begin a life of sobriety. After that, it's up to her. There really isn't anything you can do, or not do, to affect her recovery.