You said he stopped drinking four days ago. Is he going to AA meetings or did he just decide to quit drinking by himself without working any sort of program?
Yes, the past is the past .... but you have some pretty raw wounds. Four days without drinking does not obliterate memories or heal hurts or even come close to making amends.
Besides, it sounds to me like he's focused on you - as in YOUR side of the street - rather than focusing on his recovery - as in HIS side of the street.
I'd sure appreciate it if you could fill me in a little more. As I said, is he in A.A., has he tried to stop drinking before, has he always tried to stop on his own, has he been in a rehab, etc?
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