forgiving and forgetting
The truth is my AH expects me forget everything that has happened, the threats, the name calling, all the hateful things that happened. He says I am living in the past and that it will never get better that way. The problem is, although I can forgive him, forgetting is another thing....it happened and I can't pretend that it didn't and I have an extreme fear that it will just go back to the way it was.....I don't seem to be able to express this to him, without him getting very angry.
Also, I was reading somewhere that persons with addiction seem egocentric - this I have noticed a ton...but I don't understand why? He expects me to do whatever he wants whenever he wants...we have children and I can't really take away from doing things with them to appease his every whim.....one is just a baby....what is this about....any thoughts?
Thanks for all the encouragement so far....still feeling pretty good....taking everything 1 day at a time~Thanks again!~